What happens when your life is not happening the way you thought it would? That sure isn’t very much fun!! Sure #LOA and #AbrahamHicks and #ESquared say you can attract your treasure desires. So where are they?

Is Your Desire Like A Needle in a Haystack?

I loved watching Jimmy Kimmel host the Academy Awards. He was merciless picking on Matt Damon. He kept the show rolling along with tons of barbs flying. Even at the end of the show when the wrong film was announced, he made everyone laugh. I love Jimmy for that.

He, and the rest of the late night comedy crew, take the news that terrifies and depresses thousands of people and they flip it making it hilarious. This made me think, is it possible to leverage fun, actually use fun and laughter to manifest faster.

As some of you know, I have been researching sex and pleasure for three years now. The connection between sexual fulfillment and prosperity is undeniable. Today something profound occurred to me while I was on a sex chat site where I hang out for inspiration.

Not what you expect from a sex site, right?

The conversation in the lobby was around why people come to erotica sites, why people settle in bad relationships and whether it is better for the kids when people stay married. Not what you expect from a sex site, right?

That is part of what has fascinated me about sex and pleasure online. Turns out people are often looking for company and not coming. Who knew?

I brought up the topic of escorts and the benefits of this kind of service for certain women at certain times in their lives when conventional relationships are inconvenient, inaccessible or undesirable.  To read about my first experience hiring an escort, click here: Why I Hired an Escort Last Night

That lit up the chat. “I would never pay for sex.” came the instant replies in the text window.

“You always pay for sex,” I tapped back, “One way or the other.”

“What if a person chooses to stay with someone who confines them in someway in order to have a sex partner? Freedom is a pretty high price to pay for mediocre sex.”

This also lit up the chat window. This rings true for many. Don’t you know one or two people who are living in compromise, in the wrong job, the wrong home or the wrong relationship, truly stuck.

It makes me think in broader terms.

What else might you be spending the currency of your time and freedom on?

As you look at how you are showing up in your life, imagine an upgrade. What would you change first? Where are you shut down, turned off or not functioning?

For many it is in the area of “Fun and Recreation.” I like to use this as an example because I often forget to pay attention to this in my own life. The busier you get, the less time for fun, right?

I picked it to work on for a reason. This is a light, easy way to peel back a layer of your stuckness. What you shift in one life area touches all areas. The goal is to feel lighter, more hopeful and somewhat self compassionate.

Have fun trying the Jimmy Kimmel Experiment to help you wiggle out of a stuck pattern. I am going to walk you through this as I actually do this process so you can follow my thoughts:

1. On a scale of 1 to 10, how much focused intention have I place on Having Fun in the last week? (Tips For Overachievers: You can repeat this process with any neglected life area. Just use one of these instead of “Having Fun”: My eating choices, My travel fund, My connection skills, My career hopes, etc.)

For me, it is a 1. It is really a big fat zero. My work is so fun that most weeks it is my only fun. True Confessions. Blush.

2. How does it make you feel to think how neglected that life area is?

For me? First I am surprised and then a little sad. I really don’t consider Fun a Life Area. Hmmmm.

3. What kinds of things are fun for you right now?

What I discovered is that my mind went blank at first and I had to just sit and think about it. It felt silly, kind of….now let’s see, what is fun in my life? If you haven’t asked yourself that question in awhile, dig in!

  • Practicing putting (I know, it’s weird but I am a golf geek)
  • Hiking on the property where my home is
  • Writing in coffee shops (this is tricky because then it turns into work and because my work is so much fun….I don’t get to the “real” fun.)
  • Going to see a movie
  • Having a meal with a friend
  • Walking around my client Jeanice’s yard and experiencing her gardens
  • Sex
  • Hiring dining companions that pamper me.
  • Tropical resort vacations

4. Check out your list. Did you notice it was a little hard at first? Sometimes when you are coming out of a famine cycle (scarcity) it feels like you can’t have fun because everything costs money.

But hang in there because sometimes when you get going a little bit, the dreamer wakes back up and suddenly something delicious and a little bit out of range might pop into the list.

For me, it was the Tropical Resort. When it popped into my mind, I had a choice on how to respond. I could trigger (quick sometimes irrational reaction) and think, “I can’t afford that.” in some form. That energy feels awful with a capital A.

Or, I could think, “Hmmm, I don’t see that happening any time soon but that would absolutely be fun.” That one at least feels better to think about.

Process your thoughts and feelings from your “Fun” list. If this is a “Dead Zone” for you because you never pay any attention to it at all, proceed to Step 5.

5. Create Intentional Why Questions. These specialized affirmations are a short cut to balancing your flat life areas. I will write more about them, but for now, simply use these for a week or so as an experiment.

Plan on repeating these questions three times a day for one week. Do it as if you are mulling them about in your mind. No pressure, no goal, no destination. A pure energy experiment.

Why is it getting easier for me to desire fun in my life?

Why is it getting easier and easier to see how many fun things there are to do that don’t cost any money at all?

Why are all these like-hearted fun people crossing my path?

Why is it easier and easier to allow myself to prioritize fun?

Why is laughter and humor following me everywhere I go?

Why is it so much fun to be placing my intentions on fun?

Be sure to leave a comment and tell me about your results!

PS Watching Jimmy Kimmel is excellent medicine for your mood! He is brilliant, quick and a great interviewer. Set your DVR and “use” this comic energy to inspire yourself into action!

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Life has dealt some interesting cards. Divorce, Cancer and Business False Starts have stretched me. With the help of energetic healing techniques like #EFT and books like #E-Squared by Pam Grout, I am now thriving again. I am living happily on my own and have restored my own self confidence and passion. If that sounds like something you are looking for, I urge you to check out The Wonder Woman Experiment. See you on the other side!

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